How Can I Help My Children Adjust to a Divorce?

Divorce can be a difficult concept for children to understand. Oftentimes, children have questions about why their parents are separating and what this means for them. Additionally, many parents are often concerned about how their children will adapt to new changes that follow a divorce. At Miranda, Magden, & Miranda, LLP., we can help individuals understand some steps they can take to help their children adjust to a divorce. 

What Can I Do to Help My Child Adjust After Divorce?

During divorce proceedings, the court will make several decisions regarding any children involved, including custody arrangements and child support payments. Oftentimes, children may need to adjust to living with only one parent or transitioning to visitations. These changes can greatly disrupt a child’s life, but thankfully there are steps parents can take to help their children adjust to any changes that a divorce may bring. These ideas are only intended to be helpful concepts to consider, but every couple should use their own discretion in deciding what steps may be best for their specific situation.

• Maintain a Consistent Routine

A divorce could impact regular routine, especially if parents are adjusting to new custody arrangements. Individuals may need time to establish a routine that works for their unique situation. Maintaining a consistent routine can help in adjusting schedules, such as continuing to go to bed at the same time and ensuring that meals are prepared for the day. If children are kept on a routine schedule, it can help promote a healthier lifestyle and an overall better adjustment to changes resulting from divorce. 

• Openly Communicate With Your Children

Divorce can be an emotionally complex subject for children, and it can be helpful to communicate with them on age-appropriate topics to ensure they feel connected to both parents. Taking the time to answer their questions and reminding them of how important they are creates a stronger bond between parents and children. Additionally, it can help establish positive reinforcement that promotes their overall well-being.  Research has shown that parents who practice strong communication skills can help their children develop a positive self-image and establish a sense of respect between children. If children feel supported and comfortable by their parents, they are likely to adjust better to a divorce.

• Practice Good Self-Care

Oftentimes, parents may overlook taking care of themselves in an effort to take better care of their children during a stressful divorce. Practicing good self-care is essential in maintaining a person’s physical and mental well-being. If a parent is taking proper care of themselves and has a support system in place, it can help them be more present and alert for their children. This can lead children to feel more comfortable and safe talking with their parents about their concerns, and parents may be more able to listen if they feel happy and healthy. 

Contact Our Team Today

If you have questions about your divorce process and are hoping to minimize the potentially negative impact on your children, contact our team today. We are happy to help you during this process.